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**What is a Lie?**
1. :a false statement or action especially made with the intent to deceive; 2 :anything that gives or is meant to give a false impression.

The white lie is a "harmless truth". 1. :a minor, polite, or hamless lie; fib.
 * THE WHITE LIE**

ex "Telling a friend he looks great when he looks like hell can be based on a decision that the friend needs a compliment more than a frank opinion."

1. :a superficial appearance or illusion of something
 * FACADES**

ex. "When I put on a suit to go to see a client, I feel as though I am putting on another face, obeying the expectation that serious businesspeople wear suits rather than sweatpants."


 * IGNORING THE PLAN FACTS**

ex "In the '60s, the Catholic Church in Massachusetts began hearing com- u plaints that Father James Porter was sexually molesting children. Rather than relieving him of his duties, the ecclesiastical authorities simply moved him from one parish to another"


 * DEFLECTING**

ex "I've discovered that I can keep anyone from seeing the true me by being selectively blatant."

= = 1. :something left out, not done, or neglected
 * OMMISION**

ex "You break a pair of glasses that are guaranteed under normal use and get a new pair, without mentioning that the first pair broke during a rowdy game of basketball."


 * STEREOTYPES AND CLICHES**

ex "I once admitted to a group of people that I had a mouth like a truck driver. Much to my surprise, a man stood up and said, "I'm a truck driver, and I never cuss." Needles to say, I was humbled."


 * GROUPTHINK**

ex "It requires a combination of other forms of lying—ignoring facts, selective memory, omission, and denial, to name a few." "From as early as the fall of 1941, the warnings came in, one after another, that Japan was preparing for a massive military operation. The navy command in Hawaii assumed Pearl Harbor was invulnerable—the Japanese weren't stupid enough to attack the United States' most important base. On the other hand, racist stereotypes said the Japanese weren't smart enough to invent a torpedo effective in less than 60 feet of water (the fleet was docked in 30 feet); after all, US technology hadn't been able to do it."


 * OUT-AND-OUT LIES**

ex "I once asked my five-year-old nephew, "Who broke the fence?" (I had seen him do it.) He answered, "The murderers." Who could argue?"


 * DISMISSAL**

1. overlooking

ex "Dismissing feelings, perceptions, or even the raw facts of a situation ranks as a kind of lie that can do as much damage to a person as any other kind of lie.

1. :A false belief stronh=gly held in spite of invalidating evidence
 * DELUSION**

ex "It's a powerful lying tool because it filters out information that contradicts what we want to believe."